Are your emotions or reactions causing roadblocks on your path to success?
This week I want to zero in on something I touched on in my last post. Why is it so hard, letting go of our bad attitudes and negative feelings of others or certain situations? Sometimes I catch myself wanting to dig my heels in and fight a situation. Things don’t always go my way and in most cases, I’m ok with that. Occasionally, I do feel the need to be right. I would be the first person to tell others I’m not perfect. I have my faults too. It usually comes when people overstep or cut off progress in some situation. The statement, stay in your lane, comes to mind.
The first thing we need to recognize is when we feel that negative emotion building within us. If we know our behavior will be preserved as negative, we must learn how to shut it down. As we age, we become wiser to our emotions and how they affect our behavior. Becoming aware of the moments we feel anger or resentment building is important to our personal relationships and our development. Recognizing those moments will help you to stop negative behavior before it occurs and keep you on your path of success.
It is important to recognize the situations or people that cause us frustration and give us a negative response. We all have individuals in our lives who cause us stress. Knowing their personality and how it affects our mindset is key to avoiding a negative response. There are situations at work and home that cause distress too. Learning how to deal appropriately with these external issues can go a long way in advancement of our goals.
If we become aware of the moment, we feel a negative emotion arising, we must deal with it. We have all heard of counting to ten before we lose control or typing that negative message and then deleting it, instead of sending it. Sometimes it is possible to create a method that interferes with the emotional response in our minds. As an example, flicking a rubber band on your wrist when a negative emotion or action arises. It is possible to find a method that will reset our negative responses or attitudes. Find one that works for you and deploy it as often as possible when a negative situation occurs.
There are moments when we lose control of our emotions when dealing with individuals and we must correct the situation and our reactions. First and foremost, we will treat people poorly when we react in a negative way. This makes those individuals feel ridiculed or judged. This is a very unfortunate response, and we must learn from it. It is common to feel bad in the moment but we must apologize, learn and move on. We tend to beat ourselves up when we respond to people in a negative way. Moving on and learning from these situations needs to happen. We continue to damage ourselves as we live in guilt.
Can you recognize negative emotions before they affect your behavior?
What situations or individuals trigger your negative reactions?
What methods could you deploy to stop your negative emotions?
What happens when you respond poorly towards others?
There are many roadblocks in life. Unfortunately, many of these roadblocks are created by us. The biggest roadblock is a poor mindset or negative emotions. We all struggle with these from time to time. I hope you can develop a plan to deal with negative emotions, assuming you’re experiencing them currently. Thanks for engaging with this post and I hope you take a moment to contribute to this conversation. Have a great week!
Steven C. Bucks- Leading Conversations
~Maxwell Leadership Certified Team Member~
