Who is the one person who is always in your corner?
This is a big week for me and my family. Our oldest son will be married in a few days. As a parent it is hard to believe. It seems like yesterday I held him for the first time. It wasn’t long ago we were watching him play baseball, football, or wrestle. He just left the nest for college, and now he is about to be married. The great news is, we are gaining a bonus daughter who we have welcomed with open arms. She is one of us! This monumental life moment had me thinking about this week’s topic up for discussion. Who is your person that has your back, no matter what? For me, it is my wife. I caller my “Ride or Die” partner in life. She has my back no matter what and is my biggest supporter for over 25 years. This is what I hope for my son and his wife-to-be.
We all should have at least one person in our lives that support us in all we do. This person is such a great supporter, that they are the only one who can truly tell you when you are making a mistake or being an idiot. Most of us probably have a spouse or partner that fills that role in our private lives. Who fulfills that role in your work life? This is difficult if you’re the leader of your organization because people are not comfortable telling the boss what is not working. Before I became a school principal and now Superintendent, I had key people who I was comfortable with. I was able to voice my opinions and share ideas with these individuals. If we can have such an environment in our organizations, imagine the possibilities that come with this open dialogue.
So, what if you do not have that “Ride or Die” person at work, what then? Is it possible to find the person who values you and supports you no matter what? Yes, it is possible. The first step is to be that person for others first! You must be the most supportive person for your people, no matter the circumstances. This is not easy, especially if you are the leader. To achieve the work life you desire, you must first lead by example. Building this level of trust takes time. People will be open with you only when they know they are valued and appreciated. This is not a new concept or my idea, it is reality. Another way is to trust your people and share what concerns you. Be willing to be vulnerable and ask for help to show we are all human and need others to make our situations work. When we show our people, we value their views and ask for their assistance we have created a culture that will allow your organization and its people to thrive.
How are you showing support to those you lead?
Is your organization’s culture conducive for open communication?
Are you taking the risk to be vulnerable, and asking for help?
Have you expressed your appreciation to your “Ride or Die” partner?
We all need cheerleaders in our private and woks lives. An honest person who supports us. I hope you have those people in your life, and if you are not sure, examine the relationships you have. I would bet there are people supporting you, and you just don’t realize it. Thanks for checking out this week’s post, I hope you have a great week ahead of you.
Steven C. Bucks- Leading Conversations
