What makes forming connections so difficult?
Last week we discussed the connections people make while they work towards common goals, in which they harness a positive energy that surrounds their relationships. We can connect with people when we share the right mindset. What do we do when no matter what we try, some people just make forming a connection difficult? There is no doubt that connection forming is hard work. As discussed last week we know how to foster the process of forming connections. Now let us explore very common and simple things that inhibit the process of connection building.
The most obvious reason we lack connections with someone is because there is no relationship developed. If we have not taken the necessary steps to build a relationship, there will be no relationship. It is an intentional process, and we must take actions to build a connection with others. We connect easily with those we have known for many years, but we struggle to form connections with those who are new in our world.
Many times, if we are unable to connect with someone it is because they lack trust in us. People will not seek a relationship with those they don’t trust. At times, a simple action or comment can cause mistrust among people. Many times, it is unintentional or a misunderstanding. When mistrust is formed it is very difficult to correct. Building trusting relationships is the hardest task in any organization and it is a lot of work for everyone involved.
Another very common reason we can’t find a connection is because our goals and beliefs are misaligned. What we believe in life is not everyone’s cup of tea. Religion, recreation and even lifestyles cause a divide between people. We hope those people can see past some of our beliefs or actions and see us for who we are, interesting and unique in our own ways.
A gentleman I worked with told me the most valuable lesson I have ever heard on connections. People are less likely to form a connection if they haven’t shared some form of work or recreational activities with us. When we have an opportunity to laugh and work under pressure, we develop great connections. Laughter and enjoyment bring with it a positive fun-loving energy. This energy forms the connections between those who share in the moment.
How do you build relationships with new acquaintances?
How can you show others they can trust you?
What goals or beliefs do you share with others and how do you convey these?
What activities could you share with others that build great relationships?
Connections are formed through relationship building. These relationships offer trust and common goal development. Connections come through daily interactions of work and play. Where are you noticing a lack of connections in your daily interactions? Now that we have discussed the connection inhibitors, find ways to avoid them. Thanks for checking in this week and I hope you have an opportunity to engage in better connections with those around you. Please leave a comment that will contribute to this conversation.
Steven C. Bucks- Leading Conversations
~Maxwell Leadership Certified Team Member~
